The Huffington Post published a piece on tough-love decisions for brides-to-be. Here are six of their ten tips brides often struggle to believe or even refuse to hear, but really do need to know:

1. Don’t skimp on or completely forgo videography. There are tons of new services (like the ones that let your friends shoot scenes from the day with their iPhone cameras) that promise video on the cheap(er), but if you actually want to be able to hear your vows, listen to the toasts given at your wedding, etc., you need to hire a professional.

2. Planners are well worth the expense. Some brides are lucky enough to have a Martha Stewart bridesmaid or mother who is more than happy to assist with all of the little details, but even then, that person has other responsibilities and duties on the wedding day. Best to have at least a day-of coordinator to be that person who steps in and puts out fires before they’ve even begun.

3. RSVPs always get messed up somehow, even if you sent your invitations out well in advance. There are always going to be stragglers or even people who say “yes” and then don’t show up. That’s why wedding experts recommend giving a final head count of a few less people than you believe you’ll have in attendance. It’s always easier to add, but you may get stuck having to pay for someone you subtract at the last moment.

4. The day really does fly by. Everyone told me this again and again, and somehow, I thought my experience would be different — but of course it wasn’t. It’s a case for creating a schedule that actually builds in time for you to savor the day with your groom and loved ones. Also, see #1!

5. Cash bars are a nightmare. Unless your crowd is happy to be dry, or you’re not getting married at night, the least a couple can do is a free cocktail hour with beer and wine and let people know to bring cash for the rest of the reception. This is a party after all, which leads us to…

6. The wedding isn’t actually for you; it’s for your friends and family. Otherwise, you would’ve just eloped, right? As one recent bride put it, “Instead of making it about ‘your day’ and everyone catering to you, make it about the people who love you and support you and throw them the party.”

What are some other “tough love” pieces of advice brides need to hear?